Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Ask Me Anything...I'm an Open Book...

I have had a couple of comments that have caused me to think that you all may not really know me, or that the part of me that writes this blog isn't exposing the full me. Does that make any sense? There are a lot of aspects to me and my life and a lot of different facets to my personality. So, here's your chance...ask me anything. If there is something you would like to know about me, leave a comment and I will address it completely by leaving a responding comment here on this post. My life's book is wide open, there is no taboo (unless it will cause my family to die of complete shame). Be creative and dig deep. This is an incredible opportunity...I'm a little nervous about crazylady and secret agent. But I'm up for it..Bring It On!


amy said...

Im doing the same thing over at my personal blog.Not sure if you have been there or not but its

Ok, here is my question

Name 5 moments in your life that will never leave your memory.

Mr.Brian said...

If you could change one thing from your high school years what would it be.
And yes I think I would be worried about crazy lady too.
I think I may do the same thing,it will give me something fun to do.

Anonymous said...

What is your happiest moment(s)?

Robin said...

Name the absolutely craziest thing you've ever done in your life!

Sophie's Mom said...

Tell us about something you did as a child, that you would be embarrassed for your parents to find out (or you would be in trouble for!)

Salome's Mom said...

I love the picture on this post really pretty. Ok, here are my questions: Which TV show could be your life? Which personality do you identify with?

PromiseKeepersDaughter said...

Have you ever been invited to someones house and had to eat something just to be polite that you absolutly hated? What was it?

Dolores and Shawn said...

Wow, you're a brave woman. I'll have to think about this one.

redmaryjanes said...

Amy's Question:
Name 5 moments in my life that will never leave me.

1-When my Mother died.
2-When Zach was born.
3-When Tyler was born.
4-When Tim and I were married.
5-When Elijah was born.

redmaryjanes said...

Mr. Brian's Question:

If I could change one thing from highschool, I would not have dated the Grandson of the Marlboro man. His name was Scott and it wasn't a good thing.

redmaryjanes said...

Lisa's question:

My happiest moments involved the birth and raising of my children. The first time I looked into their eyes, their open mouth kisses, holding their hands while they were in the back seat. Those are my best times.

redmaryjanes said...

Craziest thing I have ever done: Went skinny dipping with twin guys, lesbian partners and a lady who I consider my mother.

redmaryjanes said...

Sophie's Mom:

Hmm..I was a pretty good kid, but I guess the most embarassing would be when my cousin and I were in a store having a farting contest and I pooped my pants trying to fart and left it on the store floor.

redmaryjanes said...

Salome's Mom:

A television show I relate to is Brothers & Sisters. The mother who is played by Sally Field is the matriarch of a large family who is very close. It's where I see myself in 15 years.

redmaryjanes said...

Promisekeeper's Daughter:

Hmm..let me think of the nastiest thing I had to eat at someone's house...I love deviled eggs and my neighbor knows that and started making them for me. Well, they are so salty you almost gag. My husband and I both eat them smiling at her.

mommy24treasures said...

no question, but had to commend you on your bravery:)

Janet said...

1) What is your BEST character trait?

2) What is your WORST?mkic

cougchick said...

okay. pooping on the floor. that is a good one...

5 year goal?
10 year goal?
the thing you would like to change the most about yourself?

Elise said...

I can't think of any good questions that have not already been asked but I am just cracking up about the farting contest....sounds like you were one fun kid:)

K1 said...

Is there anybody you've ever wronged that you haven't apologized to yet? Will you?

Carolyn said...

Your post has started me thinking. We really do get the sense that we can come to know people through their blogs, but I bet that most of us in blogland do present ourselves in a certain light- and I wonder if all the people who know us irl would be surprised by things we write on our blog?
So- there's a question: Have you ever had someone who knows you in real life read your blog AND comment that they were surprised by something you wrote?

redmaryjanes said...

Best character trait: Very loyal

Worse character trait: I'm a shunner. If you do me wrong too many times, I am completely over you. I don't look back, don't apologize, I'm just done.

redmaryjanes said...

5 year goal: Get my daughter home from China.

10 year goal: Get my 3 older children through college.

What would I change about myself?? I would like to exercise more.

redmaryjanes said...

k1: Have I wrong someone I should apologize too.

Not really. There are some things I hope to say to my ex-husband some day, but usually I have to be done so wrong to begin with for me to retaliate.

redmaryjanes said...


To be honest, very few people I know in the flesh read my blog. They all know that I have one and maybe a handful look at it sporatically, but they don't read it faithfully. Kind of funny since I started it so that my extended family could keep up on our lives.

Nancy said...

I love reading about your family adventures, especially the pictures you add.

I would love to start a blog, but am not sure I could keep the interest of my readers. I have 3 boys and we are waiting for a referral with a LID of 11-15-06.

1. What is the one trait you do/do not wish to pass on to your children?

2. If you could live ANYWHERE in the world, where would it be, and why?

3. What is the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?

4. What is your biggest pet peeve?

Nancy said...

Also, what time do you start your day? It seems as if the coffee has been brewed before I start reading?

redmaryjanes said...

I really think you should start a blog. It' a great way to keep in touch with other families who are going through the same process you are. This is where I find out the truth about wait times and processes. Truly, this blog has been a huge blessing to our entire family. I would be a big fan and visit it all the time!

1-A trait I do wish to pass on is my strength. I am a very strong person who lets nothing stand in their way.
A trait I do not wish to pass on. I am an irish woman and I have a temper--too late for that though, both Tyler and Eli have tempers.

2-If I could live anywhere it would be back home in Kansas City to be near my family. I would love to visit other countries, but the US is my home.

3-Most romantic would be when my husband came to me with tears in his eyes and handed me his share of the completed adoption paperwork on our anniversary. Another time was while we were dating and he made me a lobster dinner and had his whole place cleaned up with romantic music and candles.

4-My biggest peeve is broken commitments and promises. Also back-stabbing.

5-I work full-time, so during the week my day usually starts around 6:30am. On the weekends I'm usually up around 8am. It depends on whether or not our 2 year old Eli wakes up or not.

Much Ado said...

Hey RMJ, just wanted to pop in and say hi! I do keep reading your posts in my google reader, to keep up with your news but I came over today and saw the little celtic symbol in your sidebar, I am touched! Thank you!

Question: it may have already been asked but how many bloggers have you met in real life that you got to know solely through blogging?

adele and dan said...

what's your favorite tv show? and your favorite pizza topping? Since I own a pizzeria, I had to ask:)

redmaryjanes said...

Jane, it is wonderful to hear from you. I truly miss you my friend. I hope that all is well with you.

I have met Becky from 'And Chloe Makes 6', Steffie from 'Never Too Many', Gwen from 'Oatsvall Team' and Kelly from 'Katie's Antics'

They are all very nice ladies.
If I'm ever near Ireland or Spain, I'm looking you up.

redmaryjanes said...

adele and dan,

My favorite television shows right now are Boston Legal, Eureka, Brothers and Sisters, October Road and Grey's Anatomy.

My favorite pizza topping is sausage, I like mushrooms too. Does that say something about me??

kerri said...

Hi RMJ's, is there anything in your life you would change?
If you could have dinner with anyone in the world who would it be and why?

Ashley said...

You are a brave woman!! ;) Here are my questions ...

1: If you could go one place in the world where would it be and why?

2: What made you decide to marry your husband (besides love of course!!)?

3: Did you go to college?

This is fun ... thanks for doing it!

redmaryjanes said...


Truly, there isn't anything in my life that I would change. I'm comfortable in my own skin and with the way my life is going.

If I could have dinner with anyone, my first choice would be Jesus, I have so many questions.

My second choice would be my departed mother, I have so many questions.

redmaryjanes said...


If I could go anywhere, I would go to Ireland. Both my husband and I have origins there. I would love to see where we came from.

When I had my first date with my husband, I knew that I was going to marry him. I can't tell you how I knew, I just did.
I married him because he is real. There were no games with him, no facads. He gave me his heart, and that was it. Plus, he blushes...not many men still blush in this day and age.

I did go to college. I have a Bachelor of Arts Degree.

Nancy said...

What is your absolute, have to have from the grocery store when you go?

redmaryjanes said...


Hmm...When I go to the grocery store, I am usually buying milk. With 4 kids, we go through tons of milk. We buy a lot of eggs too.

Lauren said...

What time in you life were you absolutely scared?

redmaryjanes said...


I was most afraid when my oldest son knocked on my door in the early morning holding his chest and telling me he thought he was having a heart attack.
I was terrified.
He was fine, they think he had a reaction to NyQuil.

Much Ado said...

My door is always open to you my friend! Just wondering also, where in Ireland are your roots?

Much Ado said...

Oh, and I also love Boston Legal and Grey's Anatomy - here in Spain they are both on TV on the same night, one after the other.....people know not to disturb me on a Wednesday night!!! :) Also, never knew "Brothers and Sisters" was the name of that programme, here it is called "Cinco hermanos" so I always thought it was called "5 siblings" or something like that!

redmaryjanes said...

Girvin Scotland is where my husbands family originated, they were also in Ireland. My family's last name is McNeely. I'm not sure just where they cam from, I'd have to do some research.

adele and dan said...

It says you like meat and veggies:)

K1 said...

1) What sparked your desire to expand your family through IA adoption? (you may have answered this a long time ago, but I'm a relative newbie to your blog, so if you've explained it already, I'm sorry to ask again)

2) What are your life verses?

3) What area of today's pop culture do you think is most harmful to adults? teens? children?

redmaryjanes said...

What sparked my interest in IA. That is complicated. After Eli was born, I had this desire for another child. As a woman, I think you can understand what I'm talking about, it's almost instinctional. It comes from your soul-this desire. My last two pregnancies were high risk. I had an awful time. My OB recommended no more birthing of babies. There was another mother of a boy on Zach's hockey team who had just adopted a baby girl from Korea. My husband and I would sit with them at games. That baby girl about drove us to the brink. Just seeing her melted us, by the end of the season we knew that we needed to adopt internationally. We worried about the money and other things. We sought God through prayer. All of the doors opened and here we are.

I don't really have any life verses. I talk to God a lot. Just conversation. He guides me and comforts me. He opens the doors and shows me what I need to do.

What do I think is most harmful in modern pop culture. I do not like how sex is portrayed as something that can be casual with no strings attached-as long as you use a condom. I tell my sons that sex is so much more than that. You are involved on a deeper level whether people want to admit it or not. There are so many risks and traps and issues.

crazylady said...

I have a list:
1)Do you wear thongs, high cuts, boy cuts or Granny's silkies?
2) Which position do you sleep in?
3) Who was the first boy/girl you ever kissed and where?
4) Does devout faith in a higher power restrict you in any way?
5) Are you afraid of dying?

redmaryjanes said...


My underwear is a variety. I wear thongs, high cuts and hanes classics as well as vicky's.

I sleep on my left side.

My first real kiss was when I was in 8th grade with Derek A. at church camp. I loved that boy!

Does my faith restrict me? I felt really restricted when I was younger. I was always a wild child. But through my self-induced trials and tribulations I learned that by doing the right things for myself and others ultimately leads to happiness and the things that I want. I'm not really conservative though. I curse, now and then it flies out, I drink wine, I stay up late and hang out with friends. I'm a normal person.
I just happen to have a great relationship with God that sometimes is restricting in that I am a good moral person, but not so restricting in that doors are opened for me and I am led to do things that I may not have had the courage to do on my own.
I believe that God sees me the same way I see my children, except He is capable of loving more. I don't get all guilted out and I'm not one for formalities. I talk to him about what's going on in my life and ask Him to help me out and those who I love. I try to live the best life I can and I try to be always thankful for the immense blessings he gives me.

Ms. Dragonfly said...
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Ms. Dragonfly said...

I took awhile to ask this cuz I didn't know how to word it (see deleted post above). But I've often wondered it.

I always picture you as the sign post to direct us to each other and share in each other's miseries and joy here in blog land.

I love your kindness and thoughtfulness, but I think that everyone does whatever they do for a reason that pays off for them...what do you think it is?

redmaryjanes said...

When I first started this blog, I wanted it to be a way that I could communicate with other adopting families. I had been reading other peoples blogs for a couple of months-YOURS REMEMBER?
I also wanted my family who is in another state to be able to see what we are doing on a day to day basis.
There is a strong part of me that is a comforter and a healer. I like to encourage the people I care about. There are a lot of nurturers in our group and when I did my first post pointing out someone's referral and saw how many people circled around that family, I knew it was a good thing.
So, I have continued to do it.
I became the billboard.
What's in it for me? It all comes back around. I get so much support and friendship from the families here. People pray for us and share information. People support me through my hardships.