THE SEVENTH DIAMOND

Wednesday, May 30, 2007

Passing the Time...I Had to get a Strategy

I am posting this because I need to state out loud for my own sense of happiness how I am going to positively deal with this wait. I recommend this to any of you out there who are feeling overwhelmed and sad about the constantly growing timeframes that are being put before us.

Number one, I am going to walk into a room and someone is going to hand me a living breathing human being. This concept overwhelms me. I have to say it again. I am going to walk into a room and someone is going to hand me a child. The price tag is paperwork and a 2 year wait. That is nothing compared to the gift. I can do that with a smile in my heart.

Number two, God has a specific child for us. We must be in the right place at the right time for that child. I want that child. I will wait.

Number three, I am surrounded by love and nurturing friends who all are having very similar journeys to mine. I am comforted daily. I have an excellent support group here in this blog. I can get through this with them. They will be here for me. I will be here for them.

Number four, I am surrounded by a loving family who also must endure this wait. I must do what I can to take the trauma from them and together we need to enjoy each day between now and when Sophia comes. We must live each day to the fullest and fill those days with laughter.

Number five, I love the Rumor Queen, but I cannot take the monthly ups and downs. I have to pass her blog by. It is too much for me.

42 comments:

Dolores and Shawn said...

I do the same with the RQ, it's too much for me to deal with. I look forward to her commentaries about different issues but tend to stay away about referral rumours.

Elise said...

Wow...every month I swear I will just ignore the RQ but then I get sucked in again....always hopeful and then let down...when will I learn?

Doris & Dan said...

Those are wonderful affirmations and reminders of why we do this.

Thanks for sharing!

Keep smilin!

Kayce said...

The perfect thing to remind us all RMJ! Thank you! You just made me smile!! :)

Jewels of My Heart said...

((((Big Hug))))) Very true reasons to get you through the day. #2 is the basis for your timeline.... He is on the throne and He already knows who your Sophia is. His grace will see you through, day by day.
God's Speed sweet friend

LaLa said...

From a BTDT mama to a beautiful girl from China I will tell you that the "delivery room" experience you will have will literally take your breath away. All the months/years of waiting will melt away. Luckily I had a short wait for referral with Annslee but knowing what I know now (that she is the perfect child God chose for our family) I would gladly have waited as long as it took for HER. Yes, much easier to say on the backend. Now that I am on the wait again I am trying to look at it as you have....you are just so positive and you WILL be blessed.

crazylady said...

I see what you don't write.

Joannah said...

You are a wise woman! :-)

adele and dan said...

I take RQ with a HUGE grain of salt. But I learned the hard way, that life goes on no matter who is right and who is wrong...I know that from a song..just don't know which one..I think Billy Joel. Anyway, there is a precious gift waiting for us and we have to keep our eye and heart on it.

Roy and Lori said...

WELL SAID......................

Tracey & Mike said...

I've always made a point of not following RQ.

marina said...

Yes, I imagine that The Rumour Queen would put your over the edge. I love the picture!

Lilly's Sissy said...

Thank you so much for visiting my blog! I am so excited about this! I look forward to watching you and your family get closer to your little one! My little sister has brought so much joy to our family and I know that this little one will do the same for yours!

Stacy said...

Wow! Great post. I really like #1 ~ I never thought of it that way.

I try really hard to stay away from rumor queen. I will go when someone quotes her and I want to read the entire post. I am always sorry when I do.

One day at a time ~ we will get there.

Mr.Brian said...

I can not imagine that there is a child half way around the world that will be a part of your family some day.Amazing truely amazing.

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

I gave up Rumor Queen as a new years resolution and believe it or not I don't miss it. I couldnt take the ups and downs either.

I love you list very much and thank you for reminding all of us. I think I can speak for many of us when I say sometimes we all need a good kick up the pants with regard to the wait time and the final goal.

Michelle said...

Me too. I took that site off of my bloglines a few months ago. Once in awhile I will visit her site, if someone else links to it, But I couldn't take the ups and downs either, so now I just stay away.

shelley said...

Thanks so much for the words about waiting. They will stay with me for a long time.

shelley

Steffie B. said...

We are going to get through this....and I told you not to go to RQ! I never do!

C.J. said...

I am fortunate to have all those good things too. Still, a down day will get me now and then.

I don't twill about a rumor until my agency confirms it...that's what caused my brief tailspin this month.

Truly Blessed said...

Number six, you have a monthly dinner date with some awfully wonderful adoption mamas, and will continue to do so until you are so busy with your own little Sophia that you have to call and cancel!

It sounds like you have a wonderful strategy mapped out.

I have to make a comment on your number two. You are absolutely right in that the right child that God has chosen for you will be waiting for you at the end of this journey. You might want this journey to end now, but you have to trust that God knows what He's doing.

Oh, and number seven, enjoy those wonderful kids you have at home each and every minute!

Janet said...

HOORAY HOORAY FOR YOU! I love it! Let's all be postitive! (Most of the time, anyway....:-)) Love your attitude, girl!

cougchick said...

Your strategy is excellent. RQ is too much of a roller coaster. That precious girl will be placed in your arms and this waiting will all fade away. Hang in there Kimberley!

Shelly said...

Number two and number five are both things I've been thinking during this wait. Even though I have BTDT, it doesn't help. Your post does help, so thanks! Sending encouragement your way. -- Shelly/another adoptive mom.

Jane said...

the perfect post and just what I needed to read today! thanks kim - we can all do this wait TOGETHER!

Mom of 5 said...

Yes-We will be here with you through the long wait !!

A Special Family said...

Sweetie, you have an awesome strategy!!! You are very wise...and what a great attitude!!

L & J said...

I really needed this post today....Thank you. (((hugs)))

Amy said...

Sounds like a very good plan! I think the wait would not be so hard if you actually had a clear idea of how long it would be. You can accept what you know. The problem is hoping for the best, and needing to wait 3 times as long! You are not alone, and you will all get through this wait. The gift of a child is really an amazing thing...they will hand you a child! Wow!!!

Elisa, Jarrod & Thomas said...

We are here to support you, that all sounds very positive stuff.
As for RQ yep great in small doses.

Lisa said...

Good strategy. Someday we will walk into a room and someone will hand us our child. I like it. God does have a perfect plan for your child. We all just have to wait on his timing. I am going to enjoy life now and I will enjoy it when she gets here too. Lovely post as always. You are a wise woman.

Jeff and Michelle said...

Thank you for this. I think all of in the wait need to adjust our thinking from time to time and realize that we will meet our child when the exact perfect time is here. Beautiful!

nikki said...

That was so good!

Carolyn said...

Yep, I've given up on the RQ, too. Or at least for now.

I've tagged you for a Meme! Check my blog.

Ms. Dragonfly said...

It is amazing isn't it? And in the end it will all seem so trivial (the wait).
I stopped following RQ long ago.

Andrew & Stephanie said...

I too can not stomach RQ any more. It's too all over the place...and my emotions just can't handle it.
Thank you for sharing... your thoughts are echoed from California!!! :) We will wait and wait and wait and wait some more...

Mardi said...

You are very wise. :) I am glad you are part of my support group. What a fantastic person you are! and yes, this wait will be so worth it. It seems surreal now, but someday...I will walk into a room and my child will be placed in my arms. wow.

Shandra said...

Very well said.

Tracy said...

This was a good reminder for me. I am really struggling with this wait! Maybe I will stop visiting RQ -- it's starting to make me crazy!

Jonni & John said...

Thanks for always being such a ray of sunshine even on a cloudy day.

Hugs,
Jonni

Nikki & Larry said...

Well Said...you seem to sum up all of my jumbled thoughts and write them so perfectly!

Smiles! :o)
Nikki

Kimber said...

Another great post. Let me tell you the wait is worth every second. Go see my post from last night regarding the wait and God's prefect child for us:)

Hugs,
Kim