Friday, October 10, 2008

Please Pray for Us...

You all have become my true sisters through this journey and I have come to rely on you all so heavily. I apologize for not visiting you all as often as I should. There is a lot going on right now. I would like to ask you to pray for my family. We are going through a very stressful time.
Our family has been coming under some pretty substantial attacks.
We have a truly wonderful, loving and supportive family, but there are a couple of members who have been in attack mode since Tim and I were married and they have done whatever they can to twist words, spread untruths and hurt our family. Their favorite tool is Tim's daughter and it has reached a point where we are in crisis in our relationship with her.
I have done everything I can to seperate us from these individuals, but they never miss an opportunity to attack.
This has been going on for so long that I have really tried to leave it behind me, but just recently it has come to light that someone I have loved dearly and supported has been a part of this all along too and it has broken my heart. I guess that I have always known because I have heard things over the years that she has said that are clearly untrue or twisted versions of things that I have said but I just let it go. Recently though, I have heard things that are so hurtful to me and to my husband, things said that were completely untrue or only part of the truth.
This is such foreign territory for me because my family stands together, we do not do this to each other. I have really struggled over what to do and how to handle all of this. I have tried to seperate us from the most damaging individuals, but evidently that wasn't enough.
Please pray for us. Pray for all of our children, as this affects all of them and all of them are loved and cared for by us. When you are a blended family, sometimes it is difficult for the different families to see you as a whole and to care for all of your members as a whole, not just the ones related directly to them. Please pray that these individuals will walk away from their desire to control, that they will see how what they are doing and saying is affecting us and truly care about that. Help them to see how each member of the family needs to be an active part of it and how each member needs to be treated equally with the same rules, expectations and guidelines.

32 comments:

Kim Kenward said...

Please know that you are in my prayers.

a Tonggu Momma said...

You are in my prayers.

Patricia/NYC said...

You & your family are most certainly in my prayers!!
HUGS to you!!!!

3D said...

I am so sorry that you are facing this. Sometimes family stuff is not easy. I have been there myself.

You with your kind heart, do not deserve this. Hope you find a solution and some peace of mind.

Keep smilin!

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

We will be keeping you all in our thoughts and prayers!

No one deserves to be treated this way....

Hang in there!

Lisa

kerri said...

I'm am so sorry this is happening to your family.
I will keep you in prayer and may those who are causing the crisis find it in their hearts to stop before anymore damaging hurt is done.
I'm so sorry...
Hugs...........

Michelle said...

I am so sorry that you are having to go through these difficult times. You give back to so many and it hurts my heart to know that you are hurting. Your family will be in my prayers.

Blogs For Babies said...

Prayin for you!
~love,
Keisha

Linda said...

Please keep your Faith and hold your head high. Many people have you and your family in their prayers. Sometimes we are tested and have to go thru ugly and bitter things. You do not deserve this as you have a giving heart. You will be shown the right path although it may not be the easy one and everything will work out the way it was meant to. Keeping you close to my heart and in my prayers ... Linda

Christine said...

Good things are always under attack. Stay strong and draw closer to one another and to God.

Mr.Brian said...

Please know I too will be praying for you and the family.
Our God is mighty and big and can fix all things,he can fix this too.
Hugs,
Mr.Brian

Gail said...

This makes me so sad, Kimberley you do so much for others.
You and your family are in my prayers.

Kayce said...

I am so sorry Kimberley. All of you are in my prayers. I know just where you are at, being apart of a blended family ourselves, I understand and completely relate. You are a wonderful person. HUGS!

Waiting for Mia Hope! said...

Kimberley, I still haven't figured out why the people we love the most seem to hurt us the most. I'm sorry you are under attack. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Peace to you!
Love you!
Robin

Lisa said...

Praying for you during this stressful time.

Fliss and Mike Adventures said...

Thinking of you all...

Mardi said...

I am saying a prayer for you and your family right now. Sorry you're having to go through this difficult time :(

Chelley said...

You are in my prayers

Somewhere In The Sun said...

Oh Kimberly, I'm so sorry you are hurting. I truly understand where you are coming from, as we have this very situation in our own family. Only God can heal your heart and give you the wisdom you need. You are in my prayers, dear friend.

~Lynn

Isabella's Mommy and Daddy said...

You are in my thougts and prayers.. It sounds like our family a few years ago..My poor husband hasn't talked to his daughter for almost 2 years due to things that have happend.. it is sad for my husband.. I am thinking of you and hope things work out for the best.. Blended families are tough..
Love ya girly...

Michelle said...

I'm praying for you!!

Jewels of My Heart said...

Big Hug my friend..... I am so sorry you and your family are hurting... I will lift this up in prayer too....
For now...... click on your blog and CRANK IT! This is one of my favorite songs..... kick off your shoes.... grab the kids and dance around your living room for Jesus! He has blessed you with something beautiful my friend....
God's Peace,
Love,
Daleea

Denise C said...

OH my sweet friend, I am so sorry this is happening to your family! You of all people, who does so much so unselfishly for others, this just shouldn't be happening to you!!!'
I will go before the Father on your family's behalf....I will pray for this situation specifically each day...as I pray for your grandmother.
May your family grow closer and stronger during this difficult time!
Sending you big hugs...and lots of love, my friend!
Sweet Blessings,
Denise

A Mom- In-W8ing said...

I am so sorry you are going through this!

Blended families can be the most rewarding & some of the most challenging relationships you will ever deal with. I have experienced some of the highs and lows with both my family and my husband's.

I am keeping you in my thoughts & prayers my friend.

Smiles! :o)
Nikki

Lena said...

Praying for you and your entire family.

LaLa said...

I am so sorry you are dealing with this. You know you are in my continued prayers and I will certainly keep your entire family lifted up. {{{HUGS}}}

Kristy said...

Kimberly I have been there too, when you blend a family there are always going to be those people that just cant stand it!! They are so envious of your happiness, the love you have and the way your children have the ability to love EVERYONE that the only thing they can do is be negative and ugly and try their best to destroy what you have. But I know that you know you have HIM on your side and all of us that are praying for you, so hang in there, and know that these things might not ever go totally away, but through HIM he will give you the strength and the endurance to survive such things. God bless all of you and know that you are never alone in this, we are all here for you.

Love and blessings, Kristy

Dolores and Shawn said...

I'm sorry that you are going through this right now. It's so sad when family decide to behave in such a petty and childish way. I'm sure you've handled the situation with grace and dignity.

Sending you positive thoughts that everything will work out.

Heather said...

Hi Kimberly - That darn enemy shows up when we least want him doesn't he? I wish I could say I don't understand, but unfortunately I have my own set of trials like these. My heart aches for you and the truth is our God is bigger. He is bigger than lies and bigger than pettiness and bigger than anything that comes down our path - I will pray and staedfastly keep your family in my prayers. Please know, Kimberley, you have blessed my life on many occasions - I just know your grace and integrity are shining through and God's love is carrying you through such a difficult time.

Much love,
Heather

lindanuts said...

Kim, sorry to hear this upsetting news. It's a 12 step program solution. Accept what you cannot change. The only thing you have power to chamge is you--how you react to this maliciousness. Family can be so cruel. While it has been instilled in us that we must love them because they are family, there is nothing written in stone that says we must like them or respect their opinions---their right to have opinions but not their opinions. Distance may not be enough. You may need to cut yourselves off entirely. You are a smart woman; kind, generous, gentle, forgiving, understanding. Your first obligation is to your husband, children and YOURSELF. Friends are optional people in our lives. We choose them because they have some quality or qualities that we appreciate, respect, enjoy.... With family, we feel obligated. If a friend treated you the way these family members do, you would walk away and never look back. We should be able to do the same with family and in fact, must sometimes. If it were physical violence, you wouldn't allow it to go on. Mental is just as painful.
Accept things for what they are and go on. You are a powerhouse and your core family is strong. Let it all go and get on with enjoying your life and your family.
BIG (((HUGS)))

Noemi said...

Oh Kim I am so sorry you are going through this! You and your family are in my prayers...

Hugs,,,

Snowflowers Mum said...

Kim...I am thinking of you and ALL of your family during this difficult time.

Peace~Love~Faith~Hope

may they bring to your family what strength they bring to mine.