Sunday, February 24, 2008

Two Women...

I received this poem from an amazing woman who I am growing to call my friend. Our paths have crossed in a very unusual way and I have to tell our story.

I am sure that many of you remember several months ago the post that I wrote about the baby whose information we had requested from an agency that wasn't our own. As it turned out, we couldn't leave our current agency without having to start our paperwork all over again and we would lose all of the money that we had invested with them up until that time. So, we sadly stepped back and were later informed that she had been referred to a family.

A couple of weeks ago I was reading Daleea's blog and I saw a comment from a woman named Sharon and her graphic was a photo of the baby. My heart just stopped. I just had to click on the link. As you will see from her blog, she is a woman with a beautiful soul. A wonderful person with a lovely family. I had to go to her a blog a couple of times before I could decide whether or not I should tell her about myself and our experience. I finally did and I am so glad. She reached out with such kindness.

She left this poem for me today and it touched me to the point of tears. It means so much to me coming from her.

This is just one more amazing experience that I have had on this journey to my daughter. I feel so blessed to be able to watch Bailey come home to her mother Sharon and her family. And I am glad to have another special friend there to help me along as I find my way to my Sophia Jane. Sharon's blog is 'And Bai Li Makes3'.
You should meet her.

This is the poem:

Even though I was afraid
you laid a hand on mine and said "it's ok, don't cry Myla, ...your baby is out there
and she's waiting patiently for you."

Even though I didn't believe somedays,
you believed for me
when I couldn't muster it, you called,
you wrote, you came around anyway.

When I couldn't stand any more questions or talk
you said you were thinking of me and that meant so much
even if I couldn't express it

I was angry and hurting,
so much grief, pain, and loss-
when I could not see beyond it you said "love, Myla"

When I was too close to the situation and my vision clouded,
bogged down in logistics
you reminded me of the reason,
of the direction,
of the necessity,
of the power inherent in us all to rise above.

My tears are grateful ones now, friend, believe it.
I take you with me when I go.

Copyright Myla Stauber 2000

Myla Stauber adopted her child from Viet Nam in 2000. She writes, "I dedicate this poem to all those who helped, understood, worked, provided advice and loving kindness to us on this journey. To thank you .... and to bless those still waiting. It happens and it is the mightiest miracle in the world."


Patricia/NYC said...

WOW!! Beautiful story, beautiful poem & a beautiful way to start a friendship!! It truly is incredible the generous hearts that are out there in this adoption community.

sharon said...

The only thing I can think to say is that I am so honored that you would express your feelings in a post like this. I am very blessed to have met you and look forward to watching God bring the very special child He has for you, into your VERY special family.

I am also grateful that you were courageous enough to leave a message for me. If you only knew how it would be my own great privilege to be brought into this little corner of your life.

God Bless you always and also the little child that is out there meant just for you. She will be here before you know it and make this wait seem like just a moment in time.

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy(Kim & John) said...

That is amazing...
LOVE the post...
I am crying with you...
Have a Wonderful Week..
Hugs to you my friend..

Franceskasjourneyhome said...

Kimberly that is beautiful!!! I am so choked up right now, I can only imagine what ou must have felt when you recieved it.

Love, Kristy

Denise C said...

OH wow Kimberley! This is so touching and what a special "Gift from the Heart" of a friend! Isn't God good to allow you to watch Baily unite and grow up with her sweet forever family! I am going to go over and read her blog now!
Have a blessed week sweet friend!

Mob said...

I checked out Sharon's blog, bailey is just adorable. I loved seeing her quilt and bedroom.
That is so cool that your paths crossed.

Robin said...

That is a beautiful poem! This journey is not only about the beautiful children we bring into our families, it is filled will many remarkable people...people we may never meet but we will always consider our friends. A very magical journey that you have to experience to understand. Thank you for sharing! :)

OH MY #6 said...

Wow, this is amazing.

thanx for sharing this Kimberley.


Michelle said...

That is a very special story!

The one Blessing I did not expect when we started our adoption all of the friends I would be meeting that are now such an important part of my life!

Kimberley-I FINALLY got the Starfish package mailed out to you today. Woo Hoo! I did the shopping and have had it boxed up for close to 2 weeks, but have been unable to get it to the PO. It's on its way now and should be there in a couple of days. : )
Happy Monday!!

3D said...

That is just beautiful. Touches me deeply.

Keep smilin!

The Byrd Family said...

I LOVE Sharon and am so thankful for her comments each time she leaves one. You can truly feel Christ in her heart and she only has uplifting words to give you!

I too am amazed at my blog friends and how much they mean to me!

The Byrd Family said...

Also, I will be praying for your wait as I know how difficult it is to wait on God's perfect timing.

Big Hugs!

Carol said...


Kim I mailed the package to you Saturday, along with a donation to postage fund. They said about a week.

LaLa said...

Oh Kim...I have been following her blog and thought I recognized that sweet face : ) What a beautiful poem and two beautiful women!!

I have a similar story about meeting a friend online when I commented about a waiting child on our agency list. She emailed me in a panic b/c she thought I was interested and we were DTC and they weren't. Anyway, we are still in touch with each other..she has her son and I have my daughter. It was so wild though b/c Annslee and Matthew kind of look alike, suck on the same two fingers and act a lot alike. I always tell her that maybe my "draw" to the picture of her son was b/c I was catching a glimpse of my daughter. It will be interesting to see if Sophia Jane looks a little like BaiLi : )

cougchick said...

Those are the stories that make life worth living. Thanks for sharing.

LINDA said...

I've been to that blog. Small world and it is good to find the people that complete the story.... Sharon is a wonderful person with a generous heart.
You are equally generous and kind,Kim. And well-loved. Sophia is waiting for you just as you are waiting for her. remember that...God will bring you together in his time.
In a small way, this reminds me of the feelings I have for my Dawn's adoptive parents. I, definitely, empathize with the feelings here.

kerri said...

This was meant to be, for you to know this beautiful child was placed lovingly into a wonderful home with a forever family that will cherish her always.

Michelle said...

I often wondered if I would come across the photo on a blog somewhere of our first referral, a little baby we grew to love while waiting many months for the info that never came. I know my heart would have stopped as well. What a special story!

krj said...

I have not forgotten you ... your site is giving me lots of trouble loading.

Beautiful story, beautiful poem.

Email me when you can. We'll catch up :O)

Hopingforsix said...

What a great story. Good for you for having the courage to leave a comment and now you are friends. Just wanted you to know, you and your family are in our prayers.

nikki said...

Oh my gosh!!!! What an amazing story that is...and what an incredible connection you share.
One day you can share all of these beautiful stories with your daughter and you will tell her that it all happened because of HER!

Lori said...

Yes, that Sharon is a wonderful woman and mom. :)

Steffie B. said...

hang in there my friend.....your Sophia will come to you when the time is right....I know this is sooooo me when I tell you that it all works out according to God's plan! ;)
BIG hugs to you.....