THE SEVENTH DIAMOND

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Wisdom from Senja...

Most of us know and adore Senja. When she writes it's most often funny and sometimes sarcastic but quite often deep if you look under the layers. She's been leaving me messages in her special code for quite some time now. You know what I'm talking about. I think that the latest message is quite valuable and should be shared...

tick tock break the clock

some of the best things happen while you're waiting for it to happen

I want some wonderful things to happen here in our family while we wait, but I have to let it happen. I have to go on with my life and enjoy every day to the fullest. These are the last days I have with some of my children before they go on to college. I don't want them spent pining for Sophia. I have to change what I can for the better and endure the rest as best as I can.

HEY, have any of you seen that Laughing Cow Cheese commercial? I swear that the lady on there is Senja. I can't find a picture of her, but if you've seen it...you know what I mean.

23 comments:

crazylady said...

She better be smokin' hot. Or you'll get some more morse code, that's for sure!

Thank you for this. No one wants to hear it during this dark time in China adoption, but REALLY some of best things I did for myself happened during my wait. And it WAS LONG.
I got fit. Really fit. I went to places that claim to pamper me. I did 5 lifebooks. I wrote poetry. I nested. I spent the best quality time we ever had with my husband. I practiced being a mom. For me knowing I WAS going to be a mom, made all the difference. Compared to IF I were to be a mom. After 12 IUI cycles and two IVF's, one lost soul at 11 weeks, and nearly 4 years later, I was not convinced. Empty heart, empty tank, empty wallet, we started another journey filled with WHEN not IF. It's just as hard as I suppose. And I mean no disrespect when I say, the wait HAS to be harder on a woman waiting to be called 'mom' for the first time.
You have your children at home who need you to give them each the best years of their life. Sophia is special, but no more or less special that those diamonds you polished at home.

Thank you RMJ. Godspeed.

Cyndi said...

It is hard to not dwell on our daughters who are waiting for us far away. We are lucky we have a family at home that can keep us very busy and we should focus on that but once again I know how hard it is. Thinking of you.

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy said...

That is the right way to go..
I am with you girly..
You know I will be right by your side making sure you never get down..LOL
Hugs to you my FRIEND...

mommy24treasures said...

I dwelled on Jacob when waiting for him. He was my Sophia for you, unsure time wanting him now or yesterday... I do know how you feel exactly... Just keep nesting and hold fast to your dream...Habakkuk 2:3 For the vision is yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarries, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not delay.
I am glad Sen has encouraged you to try and enjoy your wait, I wish I had enjoyed my wait for Jacob more...

Michelle said...

Thanks for sharing such inspirational words with all of us!! Have a great day!

Doris & Dan said...

Words ring true. Words that should be implememented into a life plan. Hard to do. Trying. But there is that fear. Uncharted territory. What if...

Trying to do what you both advise. Really trying.

Keep smilin!

Carol said...

I spent way to much time on hold waiting for Emily. But it was very hard when we would go out and see Asian American babies everywhere.....my husband said I had to stop stalking them....I didn't even realize I was doing that! Parents probably thought I was a looney......BUT!!! I was stalked the other day....she never approached, but I was waiting....:)

i-Con said...

She is one of my favorite nuts in the jar....good advice fo sure!

Now, thanks a lot, I will be on the lookout for laughing cows.

LaLa said...

It is great advice from a wise woman. It is difficult to do and we all know that. You have a beautiful family and will be blessed by adding to it...and it WILL happen ...hang in there : )

Gail and Dan said...

Yes Miss Senja is a wise one I think. It is important to live our lives and enjoy what we have. We will meet our daughters someday RMJ, I promise. :)

cougchick said...

Great words from a wise woman...

I'm here cheering for the speed in your wait, RMJ!

shuey6 said...

yes, please spend this time with them... the computer sucks you in and before you know it it's all about who got their referral/travel approval/plane ticket/website/photos posted... onandonandon. You can get swirled into the fantasy of it all and reality is something different altogether.

Good -- but different.

Your diamonds will thank you for the time you give today. Good Mama.

Janet said...

I just love your attitude!!!!

kerri said...

With Jennifer there were a lot of issues surrounding the whole adoption, we were not even sure if China would accept our dossier, so tried not to get my hopes up. Tried not to think of it fearing we would be let down.
With Jillian we knew we had the green light, the waiting almost drove me insane.
I directed my attentions to my family, immersing myself into the Chines culture(read everything I could get my hands on)and kept myself (too) busy volunteering in my community.
On the sidelines,with encouragement...

sea star said...

Could not agree more!

Glinda said...

Well said.

I love the quote from your previous post.

I am summoning my courage.

Kim & Jeff said...

Wise words from a good friend.. We can all keep our little ones in that special spot in our hearts :)

GWEN OATSVALL said...

you are right on sweet friend ... God wants us in the day so He can bless us ... after feeling lost waiting for maggie, i chose to cherish the sweet kisses from my kids, the bedtime stories, the laughter w/ my honey, date nights (cause they have disappeared for a season), movie night with the kids and so much more ... the Father is watching over Sophia and you can send her kisses in the wind, but don't miss out the opportunity to be blessed and be a blessing (i know you are one to me) and this amazing time to grow in the Father! love ya bunches !!! i will have to check out crazylady ... just loved her comment .. can see that heart shining through ...

Steffie B. said...

It will all work out in the end....we just have to be patient. ;)

eggrolls and chopsticks said...

My brother told me the exact same thing aabout a year ago. Truly words to live by.

Mob said...

Very well said. We don't know what tomorrow will bring. I know that we don't want to miss out on our life because we are looking into the future too far.

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